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7/19/2010 6:36 pm |
 "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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 7/19/2010 7:15 pm |
Karin, I don't think that is a smart thing to do. That should between you and your partner. UNLESS: He or She has committed a criminal act.
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7/19/2010 7:28 pm |
No, I would never share... As I have always said, I keep my private life, PRIVATE.
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7/19/2010 7:33 pm |
You ask, "Do I think this a smart thing to do?" and my answer is a loud resounding "NO" with an echo! I guess if you want the world to know, it beats the thousands it costs for a page in the NYT or WSJ so use SFF if you must. "Every man's wisdom is peculiar to his own individuality." William Blake
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7/19/2010 7:37 pm |
Karin, I Mother told me never hang your dirt laundry out on the line.
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7/19/2010 8:03 pm |
Damn...I missed it.  Who broke up? LOL   The positive is there. Sometimes it's just hard to find.
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7/19/2010 8:44 pm |
Not a chance in hell would I share dirty laundry in a blog.... maybe a billboard, but certainly not a blog! I Hope You Dance - Lee Ann Womack
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7/20/2010 3:31 am |
Well.... Fer one, the TV soap's have nothing compared to the blogs. LOL Now. The reasons for typing those words in cyber? Are many. And we can speculate on each forever. Shoulda? On-line? For real? No. Fer another, the Marketeers love it. That email on a sale item just may have been something you said out there in cyber. Don't think anyone's life is a secret. Might it be called communication?
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7/20/2010 5:02 am |
I don't share my dirty laundry, heck I don't even like laudramats. I blog some of my personal life but the nitty gritty is for my ears only. The longest journeys begin with just one footstep
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7/20/2010 5:08 am |
It is hard when most know you have been in a relatinship with someone to just ignore the questions but I always feel comfortable just saying .."it didn't work out"..my close friends know the reasons and they support me I don't need more than that! Details are not important unless it is something extreme that is in the best interest of others safety to tell, otherwise I say MUM is the word! Some believe in destiny, some believe in fate. I believe that happiness is something we create 
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7/20/2010 6:25 am |
In the past I have blogged about VERY personal things. Everything from funny, disappointing dates, to removing my pubic hair. But I would never divulge personal information about a budding relationship. I would tell my best friend though. Everything looks impossible for the people who never try anything Jean Louis Etienne
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7/20/2010 6:32 am |
Agree, don't think it's a good idea to share dirty laundry, cut people down, etc. We have to be careful what we put on the internet, it stays there.
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7/20/2010 6:33 am |
Regardless of what you tell "some" of the time, someone will come along and make light of it, and "some" will jump on the bandwagon.
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7/20/2010 7:59 am |
In the past I have blogged about VERY personal things. Everything from funny, disappointing dates, to removing my pubic hair. But I would never divulge personal information about a budding relationship. I would tell my best friend though. If a relationship doesn't work, say "it didn't work out", that is enough. Sure we wonder why, but we honestly don't need to know. If you can't go through life laughing, then why bother going!
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7/20/2010 8:22 am |
I dont think its a good idea to share very personal stuff here, it will always come back to haunt you. Some things are ok to share. It would be a very boring place if we didnt share about ourselves, what we are like, how we think, our ups and downs in life, but no, nothing very personal.
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7/20/2010 8:42 am |
Only if we don't mind people knowing "all about it"....and also only if we don't mind the naysayers, the unsolicited advice, and the derision. Blogs, like tv are full of different shows, and personalities, they run the gamut from Jerry Springer wanna be's, Rush Limbaugh, Billy Graham, and Chicken Little. Not to mention Donna Reed, Andy Mayberry, and I Dream of Jeannie's, with a little Laura Schlessinger and Casanova...ain't life grand?  Belle
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7/20/2010 8:53 am |
WHY do they do it ? ~ that is the question Sure, it's interesting to be like a fly on the wall and know all the details of their "love" and then read about all the gory details of their break-up. But, it' so much more fascinating to know WHY they have the need to proclaim to the world their personal experiences !  
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7/20/2010 11:17 am |
I did and I regret it.
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7/20/2010 11:57 am |
Karin, excellent blog and long overdue!! Like most here, 'we' do not share our personal experiences ... and that's why they are called 'personal'. It always amazes me to read about someone's love affair, break-up, love bashing, very personal and intriguing things about their relationship etc. And I've noticed some go on and on about the 'gone sour' relationship, almost like a 'mini-series'. Perhaps that makes them feel better (personal therapy), who knows? Wasn't it Carol Burnett who had a mini-series called 'as the stomach turns'? LOL
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7/20/2010 3:00 pm |
Im surprised that everyone involved in this blog so far only talked about the negative side of " OUR PERSONAL LIFE"
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7/20/2010 4:30 pm |
Im surprised that everyone involved in this blog so far only talked about the negative side of " OUR PERSONAL LIFE" I personally don't mind who does...up to a point. But, really, do I need to know the intimate details of your break up? Belle
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7/20/2010 4:37 pm |
When I first joined SFF in the fall of 2006 I blogged without discretion. Boy, was I naive! These days I don't leave trails for undesirables to track me down. That actually happened to me once when a SFF came uninvited and unannounced. Just showed up in my town. I had never chatted with, IMd with, done anything with this SFF. He had responded to blogs I had written. That's it. He had squirreled my whereabouts and my phone number from a local merchant, here in town. Showed up where I was. Thank god it wasn't my home. I refused to come out of the building. Later that day he left an angry voice mail on my cell phone, just wanted to meet me and his dog wanted to meet Shirley. That he wasn't a stalker. PLEASE CALL HIM BACK! Angry, he was. In my book, a non-stalker is someone you have invited and expect. Which means you have had contact with him more than his having left remarks on your blog. This guy assumed a friendly greeting because we both belong to SFF? Wow. I ran by the merchant that day to find out how this guy had tracked me down. The merchant apologized and said the man introduced himself as a friend of mine, therefore he gave him my location and phone number. I have been much more cautious since that incident. He doesn't visit my blog anymore. Thank goodness. I am much more aware of the publicness of this site than I was in 2006. There are some wonderful people here and I feel I have made some friends. Hopefully someday I will meet the man who will capture my heart. Good post, girlfriend.  AneMac   Love is a picture postcard life.
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7/20/2010 4:47 pm |
Karin....thanks for writing this blog...I have noticed lately that there has been a couple of blogs with way TMI and from years and years ago....I don't mean to sound harsh....but who cares??? I use to go to the chatroom a lot but a few weeks ago I was being attacked in the room by a man and was so frustrated and angry that I blurted out something very personal that I would never had intended sharing....result....he made light of it and in fact made fun of another female chatter that shared that she had a similar experience as I in her life.... I have stopped going into chat because of this incident.... Bottom line...I don't think it is smart to share very personal information....there may be the few that can emphathize and support you but there will always be those that see it as ammunition to use against you....
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7/21/2010 3:50 pm |
Karin, I don't think that is a smart thing to do. That should between you and your partner. UNLESS: He or She has committed a criminal act. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 3:52 pm |
No, I would never share... As I have always said, I keep my private life, PRIVATE. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 3:54 pm |
You ask, "Do I think this a smart thing to do?" and my answer is a loud resounding "NO" with an echo! I guess if you want the world to know, it beats the thousands it costs for a page in the NYT or WSJ so use SFF if you must. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 3:55 pm |
Karin, I Mother told me never hang your dirt laundry out on the line. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 3:58 pm |
Not a chance in hell would I share dirty laundry in a blog.... maybe a billboard, but certainly not a blog! "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:00 pm |
I wouldnt share dirty laundry, but sometimes to get to know people u have to tell them some things.............otherwise what is the use MA "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:12 pm |
Well.... Fer one, the TV soap's have nothing compared to the blogs. LOL Now. The reasons for typing those words in cyber? Are many. And we can speculate on each forever. Shoulda? On-line? For real? No. Fer another, the Marketeers love it. That email on a sale item just may have been something you said out there in cyber. Don't think anyone's life is a secret. Might it be called communication? "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:13 pm |
I don't share my dirty laundry, heck I don't even like laudramats. I blog some of my personal life but the nitty gritty is for my ears only. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:17 pm |
It is hard when most know you have been in a relatinship with someone to just ignore the questions but I always feel comfortable just saying .."it didn't work out"..my close friends know the reasons and they support me I don't need more than that! Details are not important unless it is something extreme that is in the best interest of others safety to tell, otherwise I say MUM is the word! "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:20 pm |
In the past I have blogged about VERY personal things. Everything from funny, disappointing dates, to removing my pubic hair. But I would never divulge personal information about a budding relationship. I would tell my best friend though. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:22 pm |
Agree, don't think it's a good idea to share dirty laundry, cut people down, etc. We have to be careful what we put on the internet, it stays there. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:29 pm |
Regardless of what you tell "some" of the time, someone will come along and make light of it, and "some" will jump on the bandwagon. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:34 pm |
Ohhh, I remember that blog! I started laughing out loud again just reading about the pubic hair and remembering!! If a relationship doesn't work, say "it didn't work out", that is enough. Sure we wonder why, but we honestly don't need to know. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:40 pm |
Only if we don't mind people knowing "all about it"....and also only if we don't mind the naysayers, the unsolicited advice, and the derision. Blogs, like tv are full of different shows, and personalities, they run the gamut from Jerry Springer wanna be's, Rush Limbaugh, Billy Graham, and Chicken Little. Not to mention Donna Reed, Andy Mayberry, and I Dream of Jeannie's, with a little Laura Schlessinger and Casanova...ain't life grand? "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:41 pm |
I dont think its a good idea to share very personal stuff here, it will always come back to haunt you. Some things are ok to share. It would be a very boring place if we didnt share about ourselves, what we are like, how we think, our ups and downs in life, but no, nothing very personal. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:44 pm |
WHY do they do it ? ~ that is the question Sure, it's interesting to be like a fly on the wall and know all the details of their "love" and then read about all the gory details of their break-up. But, it' so much more fascinating to know WHY they have the need to proclaim to the world their personal experiences ! "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:45 pm |
I did and I regret it.  "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:52 pm |
Karin, excellent blog and long overdue!! Like most here, 'we' do not share our personal experiences ... and that's why they are called 'personal'. It always amazes me to read about someone's love affair, break-up, love bashing, very personal and intriguing things about their relationship etc. And I've noticed some go on and on about the 'gone sour' relationship, almost like a 'mini-series'. Perhaps that makes them feel better (personal therapy), who knows? Wasn't it Carol Burnett who had a mini-series called 'as the stomach turns'? LOL "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:56 pm |
Im surprised that everyone involved in this blog so far only talked about the negative side of " OUR PERSONAL LIFE" "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 4:57 pm |
I would say that's because most of the posters were the type who didn't share as much. I personally don't mind who does...up to a point. But, really, do I need to know the intimate details of your break up? "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 5:02 pm |
When I first joined SFF in the fall of 2006 I blogged without discretion. Boy, was I naive! These days I don't leave trails for undesirables to track me down. That actually happened to me once when a SFF came uninvited and unannounced. Just showed up in my town. I had never chatted with, IMd with, done anything with this SFF. He had responded to blogs I had written. That's it. He had squirreled my whereabouts and my phone number from a local merchant, here in town. Showed up where I was. Thank god it wasn't my home. I refused to come out of the building. Later that day he left an angry voice mail on my cell phone, just wanted to meet me and his dog wanted to meet Shirley. That he wasn't a stalker. PLEASE CALL HIM BACK! Angry, he was. In my book, a non-stalker is someone you have invited and expect. Which means you have had contact with him more than his having left remarks on your blog. This guy assumed a friendly greeting because we both belong to SFF? Wow. I ran by the merchant that day to find out how this guy had tracked me down. The merchant apologized and said the man introduced himself as a friend of mine, therefore he gave him my location and phone number. I have been much more cautious since that incident. He doesn't visit my blog anymore. Thank goodness. I am much more aware of the publicness of this site than I was in 2006. There are some wonderful people here and I feel I have made some friends. Hopefully someday I will meet the man who will capture my heart. Good post, girlfriend. AneMac "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 5:12 pm |
Karin....thanks for writing this blog...I have noticed lately that there has been a couple of blogs with way TMI and from years and years ago....I don't mean to sound harsh....but who cares??? I use to go to the chatroom a lot but a few weeks ago I was being attacked in the room by a man and was so frustrated and angry that I blurted out something very personal that I would never had intended sharing....result....he made light of it and in fact made fun of another female chatter that shared that she had a similar experience as I in her life.... I have stopped going into chat because of this incident.... Bottom line...I don't think it is smart to share very personal information....there may be the few that can emphathize and support you but there will always be those that see it as ammunition to use against you.... "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/21/2010 5:14 pm |
Maybe a man will capture your heart Ane. I think he has already done, but he need to short out his 'crap'.... Do not forget the evolution is storge, philia, agape and then eros. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/22/2010 8:19 pm |
I think we all share our personal lives here to some extent. I agree that some bloggers offer WTMI, but hopefully your comments won't stop those who feel "safer" sharing their bad experiences with people who don't know them personally. If a blogger finds it therapeutic or helpful in any way to vent here, they should be able to do so. There may be good reasons they can't share with friends or family. I don't care to read political threads and the infighting blogs. It's easy to know which ones to avoid, simply by reading the title or knowing the blogger. Nothing forces me to read them. I exercise my freedom of choice and don't open them - and when I happen on a post that I don't like, I hit the Back button. I recommend it as a great way to avoid any blog you don't want to read. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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7/24/2010 7:19 pm |
Like Karin said...if a guy on the SFF site gets vulgar, perverted, and sends me naked pictures again I do the same thing I did before..Tell all the ladies so they can be aware....Safety sake...lol
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7/25/2010 11:32 am |
Like Karin said...if a guy on the SFF site gets vulgar, perverted, and sends me naked pictures again I do the same thing I did before..Tell all the ladies so they can be aware....Safety sake...lol "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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8/5/2010 8:45 am |
I don't believe in telling all because it goes all over puterland once you do. It doesn't just stay here on SFF. Even after having said that, I don't believe it is safe or wise to let complete strangers know everything about you or your families. Good subject.
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8/5/2010 11:49 am |
I don't believe in telling all because it goes all over puterland once you do. It doesn't just stay here on SFF. Even after having said that, I don't believe it is safe or wise to let complete strangers know everything about you or your families. Good subject. "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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8/15/2010 9:54 pm |
Hi there I have shared my privates more than a man my age should..Oh you mean private feelings and past events, nope not too much of that unless I am in chat with a few more drinks down the hatch than usual.. Have a great day..  "The only way to have a friend is to be one"
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