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My First Love I am just getting this in under the wire. It is only 11 PM here in the Pacific time zone so it is still Wed. Like many others my first love did not end well. I dated in high school and college but nothing really serious - not that I knew it. At that age everything is serious. When I was in grad school a guy I had dated and really liked when I was a sophomore reappeared in my life. True to his nature he just appeared on my door step one day. I hadn’t heard from him in over 2 years. At the time I was living about 50 miles from him but we managed to start seeing each other regularly in spite of this. Things evolved and we became a couple. I moved to the same town where he lived and commuted to classes. This meant giving up my collegiate “social life” but it was no problem. I was ready to be “a grown up”. We had an exciting 6 months spending time on Cape Cod, New York City, New Year’s Eve at the Playboy Club followed by watching the ball drop in Times Square, going to many Broadway shows, visiting the World’s Fair in Montreal and just spending time being together. He told his close friend that marriage was on the way. I was going to have a fairy tale ending. I would get my masters in June and had a teaching job lined up for the following year the next town over from where I lived. It could not get much better than this. Just after the the school year ended we were on a camping trip in the Adirondack Mountains in upstate New York. A ranger came to our camp to tell me my grandfather had passed away and I needed to go to my mothers. I packed her up and we headed for Wisconsin, stopping in Rochester New Youk to pick up my sister on our way. I returned home about 10 days later. I had missed my by boyfriend so much but he had turned very distant and cold. Shortly thereafter one of my friends let me know that while I was gone he started seeing her. I confronted him and he admitted it. He decided that he wanted to “see other people”. To this day I still don’t know what happened or why. I was devastated and stuck in a city I did not want to be in for a year to fulfill my employment agreement with the school district. Of course life went on even though I didn’t believe it would. I moved on, got married, moved around this country and Canada, had 2 daughters. This marriage was rocky and ended in divorce after 14 years but that put me in the right place at the right time to meet the real love of my life. I now know what it is like to be rejected, to fail at marriage and then truly love and be loved. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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Your story is a remarkable one! It proves once again that emotional pains will grow less as time passes. Time is a great healer, Spiritwoman.
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At our age, I guess we have all had our share of disappointing relationships Spirit. But we always seem to get over them and back into the fray that is life and love. Alfie...
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8/14/2014 5:58 am |
I know what happened to my first love. She went into a RC religious order right after high school. She spent ten years as a nun in the 60's. She came out pretty embittered by the experience according to her younger sister. I tracked her down a few years ago through the sister, but she wants no contact with me. She believes I am still carrying a torch for her. What I'm really interested in is her nun experience. Going into a convent at 17 in 1960 and coming out at the end of the drug-sex and rock'n'roll decade must have been a shock.
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Life does thow us a lot of curves but we are where we are supposed to be now!
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8/14/2014 11:17 am |
There is more but that is another story. My husband passed away 10 years ago and my "serial relationship" adventures since then have been interesting but far less emotinal. I guess age takes care of that one - or is it meds? Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/14/2014 11:18 am |
Your story is a remarkable one! It proves once again that emotional pains will grow less as time passes. Time is a great healer, Spiritwoman. Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/14/2014 11:21 am |
I don't think they were together that long becasue has he said he wanted to "see other people". I remember that he did eventually return to North Carolina and she did not go with him. Of the 2 of them at least she come forward and told me. I wonder how long he would have "played the game" if she hadn't Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/14/2014 11:23 am |
That there are. Although my husband passed away 10 years ago I had the experience of knowing first hadn't the difference between good and bad relationships. Now, at this age relationships seem to be more about comfort than passion. Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/14/2014 11:26 am |
At our age, I guess we have all had our share of disappointing relationships Spirit. But we always seem to get over them and back into the fray that is life and love. Alfie... Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/14/2014 11:29 am |
I know what happened to my first love. She went into a RC religious order right after high school. She spent ten years as a nun in the 60's. She came out pretty embittered by the experience according to her younger sister. I tracked her down a few years ago through the sister, but she wants no contact with me. She believes I am still carrying a torch for her. What I'm really interested in is her nun experience. Going into a convent at 17 in 1960 and coming out at the end of the drug-sex and rock'n'roll decade must have been a shock. I can not imagine convent life at any time, let alone during the time she was there. It really must have been like being transported to another plane. Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/14/2014 11:31 am |
Life does thow us a lot of curves but we are where we are supposed to be now! Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/14/2014 11:33 am |
Although the end of your relationship was hurtful, it sounds like you had a wonderful time together. I am glad you found the perfect love. Spiritwoman ^i^
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All of us are adventurous but, unfortunately, My dear SpiritGirl, there are some of us who are not only emotionally but also biologically adventurous which in us, emotionally evolved species, should be rare !! I am glad you emerged stronger and you are YOU !!   "To fight the darkness do not draw your sword, light a candle" - Zarathustra
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8/15/2014 7:15 am |
We jerks have feelings, and need loving as well.
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8/15/2014 10:22 am |
All of us are adventurous but, unfortunately, My dear SpiritGirl, there are some of us who are not only emotionally but also biologically adventurous which in us, emotionally evolved species, should be rare !! I am glad you emerged stronger and you are YOU !! Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/16/2014 5:43 am |
It's always interesting to get together with those from our distance past to catch up on how things worked out - or didn't. too bad she doesn't want to participate. I can not imagine convent life at any time, let alone during the time she was there. It really must have been like being transported to another plane. I have tracked down a number of people from my past, and some of their stories are quite amazing. One guy I was in the RCAF with in the 60's is a Hare Krishna guru in India. He has lived their for decades.
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I had missed your interesting love story, Spirit. Glad you have known true love. I admire you as a strong woman, and like your way of thinking.  Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.(Khalil Gibran)
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8/17/2014 12:00 am |
I had missed your interesting love story, Spirit. Glad you have known true love. I admire you as a strong woman, and like your way of thinking. Spiritwoman ^i^
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