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Should you always side with a friend? Elaine Shuel |
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That's very good, Pat. If you must always agree with a friend to remain friends, what type of friendship is that really? Being nasty is quite different. Thanks for your comment. Elaine Shuel
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You're right, I meant to put Other as a 3rd choice. I'll add that. Elaine Shuel
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In a public forum, I may say nothing. In a private discussion with that friend, I feel that we could discuss the issue.
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Personally, I think loyalty is highly over-rated.....Blind loyalty too often results in self-betrayal.....a friend that depends on your loyalty to his/her opinions over your personal integrity is not worth preserving........To be thought of as friends, you must know each other well enough to word your disagreement with enough diplomacy ........I have quite a lot of friends with whom I have standing disagreements that add spice to the friendship.....pretending to agree on everything is like always ordering the same meal........I already know you well enough to know that asking you for constant agreement on whatever comes up would deprive me of many fascinating aspects of a diverse personality.....Vive la Diiference! Elaine Shuel
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As expected from you, RosesLady, your answer made complete sense and I'm only agreeing with you because you're right. lol Elaine Shuel
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I knew exactly what you meant. It was clear enough. Elaine Shuel
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2/20/2015 9:43 pm |
When it comes to blogs how many are really friends? if we are really friends disagreeing should not be an issue as long as it is respectful and tactful. Personally I simply do not comment publicly. If it's a big enough issue to discuss I would do it privately. If I am not close enough to contact the individual privately I do not comment. My reasoning is that there is enough controversy here. I dislike what many call " spirited discussion". (I've been married and raised 5 kids. Enough "discussion" to last a lifetime) Make your point and I will make mine. No need to agree or disagree. I like to stick to simple sharing. Spiritwoman ^i^
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When it comes to blogs how many are really friends? if we are really friends disagreeing should not be an issue as long as it is respectful and tactful. Personally I simply do not comment publicly. If it's a big enough issue to discuss I would do it privately. If I am not close enough to contact the individual privately I do not comment. My reasoning is that there is enough controversy here. I dislike what many call " spirited discussion". (I've been married and raised 5 kids. Enough "discussion" to last a lifetime) Make your point and I will make mine. No need to agree or disagree. I like to stick to simple sharing. Elaine Shuel
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I can't ascribe to a hard and fast rule on this. Every comment, relationship, and situation is different. GBU, Gavin
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If they were totally in the wrong I would not support them. Sometimes I opt for the stay out of it approach and say nothing. But if a friend said something that was way out of line I would let him or her know that I disapproved.
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2/21/2015 2:58 am |
Excellent topic. I think internet 'friends' can start and also end by a single comment. You see it all the time in these groups. You disagree with someone you think is your friend, or you side with someone they don't like and you're blocked.
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There are two factors that need to be defined before one can answer the question. What kind of friend and what kind of disagreement? For me, the answer is not a simple one.....The friend part plays very little into the hand of what I may or may not say. For me, the disagreement almost always has to do with the intent and purpose of the statement more than what it actually says. This site has morphed into far more than stirring the pot. Many here have already been cooked in so much negativity and bad taste, it's hard to imagine that the pot and kettle can not see that neither is white. They must want it that way because they are standing the test of time. I think that many would have nothing to say, if the negativity was removed. I doubt, however, they or I can remove the "bad taste"
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I can't ascribe to a hard and fast rule on this. Every comment, relationship, and situation is different. GBU, Gavin Elaine Shuel
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If they were totally in the wrong I would not support them. Sometimes I opt for the stay out of it approach and say nothing. But if a friend said something that was way out of line I would let him or her know that I disapproved. Elaine Shuel
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Excellent topic. I think internet 'friends' can start and also end by a single comment. You see it all the time in these groups. You disagree with someone you think is your friend, or you side with someone they don't like and you're blocked. Elaine Shuel
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There are two factors that need to be defined before one can answer the question. What kind of friend and what kind of disagreement? For me, the answer is not a simple one.....The friend part plays very little into the hand of what I may or may not say. For me, the disagreement almost always has to do with the intent and purpose of the statement more than what it actually says. This site has morphed into far more than stirring the pot. Many here have already been cooked in so much negativity and bad taste, it's hard to imagine that the pot and kettle can not see that neither is white. They must want it that way because they are standing the test of time. I think that many would have nothing to say, if the negativity was removed. I doubt, however, they or I can remove the "bad taste" Elaine Shuel
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Absolutely correct, Rainier. Elaine Shuel
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Rosie always knows the right things to say. Elaine Shuel
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2/22/2015 3:45 pm |
I can't imagine having anyone as a friend who expected me to agree with him/her on everything. A bit of hypocrisy is at times necessary, but i find it hard to envision a scenario for that in this case.
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I can't imagine having anyone as a friend who expected me to agree with him/her on everything. A bit of hypocrisy is at times necessary, but i find it hard to envision a scenario for that in this case. Elaine Shuel
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I agree with Rentier. Hypocrisy doesn't rate in my books. You shouldn't have to agree with everything your friend says. It is nice to have a debate on these issues. If you have to agree with everything then they aren't a true friend.
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I agree with Rentier. Hypocrisy doesn't rate in my books. You shouldn't have to agree with everything your friend says. It is nice to have a debate on these issues. If you have to agree with everything then they aren't a true friend.  Elaine Shuel
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Anyone who really knows me, knows i am going to express how i feel about something. if i agree with something a friend has said, i will say so. if i don't, I will say that as well and might even state why i feel that way. If someone doesn't like it, that's just too bad. And if a friendship is real, the friendship will survive a differing opinion. In the end, it is just an opinion and how you personally feel. No more and no less.  I definitely see where you're coming from. Thanks for your comment. Elaine Shuel
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