I'm multi-faceted, aren't you? Who I am and what I'm looking for in only 4000 characters?! Hah! Nevertheless...
I love to play! I let my child come out without being childish or juvenile. A teddy bear can talk;I can play Sorry! without being sorry; hide'n'seek is still an option; kick the can (or stone) is play, talk, and exercise.
I like to talk and listen. Everybody's got a story to tell. Everyone needs to listen to find the similarities that bring you closer. I've learned to listen, and, as a result, I know more. Communication is the key to the lock of isolation. I need communication in small matters, matters of importance, opinions, concepts, facts, and hope. If you don't tell me where you're at and I don't do the same, then there's gonna be trouble. 'Nuff said.
I love affection, and even the casual touch has value. Likewise, to be affectionate is a great joy. At this point I want to relate my personal approach. Many women seem to initially perceive me as shy; some, even stand-offish. I have discussed this with women friends, so I know this to be true. There are an unknown number of women who expect agressive behavior from us males...and there are a good number of women that view that behavior as positive and welcome it as a sign of their desirablity. You won't get any sour grapes from me on the subject, it is as it is. I simply don't work that way. The woman is the *decider*, and I'm not going to grab your hand, throw my arm across your shoulders, or snake my arm around your waist and pull you so close that we have trouble walking down the street as a way of showing I like you. That strikes me as a lack of respect. If that's what you want, however, OK...find a way to let me know. In short, I would rather miss a 100 opportunities out of respect, than cause 1 woman to have to fight me off due to lack thereof. Misguided? Maybe so. To finish this topic off, after you decide, then I like to touch, caress, stroke, massage, hold, cuddle; you can use me as a foot-rest, or drape yourself all over me...your call and my pleasure.
OK. I tend to be sedentary, but I'm not lazy. I love my computer, almost all the knowledge I could ever want, and more than I can ever assimilate is available. I've been building my own for more than a decade now, and I've got a kick-butt machine...sorry gals, but I like action games "...a man and his toys...". To be fair, I also love working so hard (at something that produces *something*) that I get drenched in sweat.
I've listed myself as heavyset. I don't know the difference between heavyset and stocky. Right now I'm on a medication that is making me ravenous, and it's been very difficult for me to resist the hunger pangs. So I've ballooned up. So I'm more than a few pounds overweight. Come March and I'll be off the meds, and I'm going to be trying to get rid of this stuff. I know it won't be easy! But be not deceived, I'm telling you up front that I consider my "normal" self will be overweight by about 20 lbs. I'm comfortable with that. Maybe that will change, but I suspect not.
My Ideal Person:
916 characters left and we still gotta do you. Negatives:Smoker is OK, Drink: No active alcoholics (nor drug abuse including prescription abuse or "recreational" drugs, or behavioral addictions) Will not tolerate emotional or physical abuse, Loonies may apply; depends on flavor
Positive: I have no ideal woman in mind. Had 7 relationships of 1 yr or longer. Found beauty in underweight, overweight, just right, considered (by others) not at all pretty, OK, very pretty. Have found ugliness in all types above too. I consider most women fascinating cretaures. I admit that there are women that I do not want to get to know on sight. I consider that to be a flaw in me. I ask God to help me see the Divine Beauty in His Creation, and to open my mind and heart toward them.
I am a prolific writer, open to all communication, especially just for fun/friendship. I'm in no hurry, and have no expectations or preconceived notions.
Favorite musicians or bands:
Beethoveen, Beatles, ZZ Top, 3 Days Grace
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